Congratulations! You made it to the start of 2018! January is a great time of year for personal reflection and to bury all of the negative things that happened in 2017. It’s a new start for everyone! It’s also a great time to make a commitment to you. Get back in the gym. Focus on that promotion at work that you deserve. Work on communicating more with your partner. The list can go on and on.
As you stay laser-focused on your new goals and commitments, things might get in the way. Enter social media. One day, you find yourself scrolling and looking at your friends’ progress and you completely lose your drive. You start comparing yourself to others and lose focus on what’s most important – YOU! This is the worst thing that can happen to your resolutions.
Honestly, I actually don’t remember a time in my life when I haven’t compared myself to someone else. When I was younger, it was in sports and school, and as I got older it became jobs, income and overall success.
We can infinitely find ways to compare ourselves to one another. But honestly, where does that get us? How does that help us get to the goals that we set for the New Year? I am well aware I am not alone in this thinking and it seems to be a process that takes us away from our overall happiness.
When you start to feel this way, take a look at yourself in the mirror…a long hard look. Maybe this comes after a tough workout or before you go out for a date, but whenever it is, let it be when you feel your best. This is the moment you realize you are doing your best. This is where you see the beautiful, amazing and strong you. This is the point you are only comparing yourself to the person staring back in the mirror: You!
My point is, making positive progress every day can be a challenge but it does happen. It doesn’t matter what everyone else is doing. Pushing through and believing in you is an achievement in itself. I go through this every day and I always make sure I find something impressive about myself. Whether it’s my hair or my swollen gluts from my morning workout – just find a positive. This focuses on the fact that the only one you need to compete with is you.
We may never fully stop completely comparing ourselves to others but there are practical ways we can stop comparing ourselves to others. Here are some tips:
- Become aware of your own successes…and celebrate them!
- Learn to embrace when you grow in a certain area.
- Compete with others less and appreciate them more. It’s healthy to focus on others successes and celebrate them as you would your own.
- Always continue to be a “work in progress” and remind yourself that no one is perfect. We all have our flaws and without them, we would be pretty boring.
- Be motivated and inspired. Everyone has different things that motivate and inspires him or her, so think about that. What inspires you?
Overall, comparisons deprive us of joy and shift our focus on the wrong person. Break free of this comparison habit and embrace yourself, as you are, and continue to grow.
What are some of your tips for personal achievement and growth?
Author: Kathryn Marks